Keep Dating Safe


Dating should be fun but it is equally important to be safe. Dating safety is equally important whether you are meeting someone online or in person. When I talk to single women, they tell me that fear often stops them from dating altogether or makes them so cautious that they put up barriers. If they are new to being single, they might be uncertain how to proceed in this new dating world. Singles often wonder how they will know if the person they are talking to is really who they say they are. How do they know the person is even single? Will they be safe on a date? These are valid concerns, but with a little information and a plan, dating can be fun and safe. Whether you are meeting someone online or in person, there is always some concern surrounding how honest the other person is being. Are they really who they claim to be? This can be something as simple as a white lie to someone looking to take advantage of you. So how do you proceed with caution and protect yourself while still having a positive attitude about dating?

My first piece of advice is to trust your instincts. If you have a funny feeling about the person, assume it might be for a good reason. It is always advisable to check the other person out and move slowly in the beginning. Here are a few safety tips to help you out.

 Don’t give too much personal information too soon.

 Set up a separate email account just for dating.

 Only give out a cell phone number.

 Make sure you get their last name and phone number before you meet.

 It is ok to do a Google search before you meet them. This can be a good way to verify some of the information they have given you.

 Drive yourself to the first meeting, and make sure it is a public place where you feel comfortable.

 Don’t move too quickly. Give yourself time to get to know the person before you are alone with them.

Go out with a positive attitude, have fun, but be cautious. Take things slow at first. Get a full name and phone number always. Pick a time to meet at a public location and keep the first date short and sweet. If all goes well, now it is time to really start to get to know more about this person to see if they might be “the one.” One final note, don’t ever give someone that you do not know well money or help in any way. This is a sure sign of a scam. Be prepared to protect yourself so you can enjoy the dating process. Yes, there are some dishonest people out there, but most of the people are just like you, looking for love.

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS