Cyber Connections (Buffering…….)


Dating today certainly is not what it used to be with social media, texting and video phoning so readily available. The personable aspect has been removed to a great extent, leaving individuals without the ability to read facial expressions or body language in the flesh, which is a great tool in determining whether or not a person is being sincere in their efforts to connect with you.

It seems like every day we move further and further away from Interacting in the physical sense, having people to wonder what to expect once the electronic mask has been removed.

Now don’t get me wrong I’m not saying it’s impossible to make a love connection this way but it certainly does lack that first impression quality that only a face-to-face meeting can produce.Young man waiting for someone at the cafe

It seems like people are so busy looking at “Glamour Shot” photographs and reading finely tuned profiles that only show potential suitors in the best possible light, that they forget that being there is far more revealing.

Now while I do realize that this is the wave of the future, we still have to be careful not to remove the human aspect of dating so much that it becomes a cold, laborious practice to go out and meet people in true social settings.

When you think about it it’s sort of like looking at the resume of someone hoping to snag a great job, they seem to have all the qualifications and even the experience. But when you get right down to it, it’s not about only what you claim to represent, but more of what you can actually produce once you’ve acquired the position. While on the other hand, being able to see, talk to and even pre-screen does have its advantages. Such as seeing just how much effort a person is willing to put into a first meeting in which they know they won’t have to fully “show up” if you will.

In the end I suppose I could argue the pros and cons till I’m blue in the face and it still won’t change the fact that dating will only become more technical and more removed as time goes on. Let’s just hope people don’t do the same.

Guest blog post by Mr. Perry L. Barnes founder of Victorious Roots